Monday, July 27, 2009

Moving on Up!


For those who have never had the pleasure, allow me to explain the exhilarating process that is renting an apartment in Manhattan.

First, you have to learn the lingo. Pre-war or post-war? Walk up or elevator? Brownstone or luxury high rise? Fee or no fee?

Then you have to navigate the complicated web of craigslist and brokers to find someone who will even show you an apartment. There are scarcely few buildings that you can even see without a broker. Whether or not you have to pay the broker for their services depends on how desperate the building management company is to rent the apartment, because sometimes when times are tough (like now), the management company will pay the broker so you don’t have to.

After spending an entire day apartment searching this weekend, Mary Logan and I had narrowed it to two beautiful apartments, either of which we felt were appropriate choices for us. The first was an elegant townhouse building with fifteen foot ceilings, closet space galore and an exquisitely renovated interior. We put in our offer only to find out the apartment would not be available in time for our mid August move in date.

So, over a glass of rosé on the Upper West side we debated our second choice apartment. It featured a beautiful pre-war building in possibly the most ladylike building I’ve ever encountered in Manhattan. It also had a doorman, elevator, incredible kitchen and every charming detail for which we had been searching. As luck would have it, the apartment also carried a broker’s fee of one month rent that our broker called non-negotiable.

Defeated, we started from scratch and began calling brokers from craigslist. Just as our disappointment was setting in that both of these apartments were out of reach, our broker called and said the management company had agreed to one month free rent to offset the broker fee!

Then the fun part began. New York apartments are so fiercely competitive that you have to prove your worth to the management company. They require no less than the following: employment letter stating compensation and length of employment, bank statements, tax returns, an application fee and a credit check. Even after proving that we could afford the apartment several times over, they still wanted more. As of Monday night, we are still waiting to hear from above if we are worthy enough to rent this apartment. I am inclined to believe it would be easier to buy a home in most areas of the country.

Now we wait. Hopefully our dreams of living in a lovely apartment near Central Park will soon be reality.



JLH

Friday, July 24, 2009

Back in the Saddle

It had finally happened. The commitment-phobic, party-hard, good times girl found a great guy and fell for him. However, as a lot of you already know, I am single once again, and this weekend I am getting back in the saddle both figuratively and literally.

The fiercely independent part of me wishes I could say that I haven’t had any contact with my ex and I’ve been on so many dates that I can’t keep their names straight. But the past few weeks since we broke up have been tough. I have always had a profound sense of pride, so is difficult to admit just how heartbroken and lost I felt after we said our goodbyes.

I’ve done all those things girls do when relationships end including having my fair share of ice cream, crying to my friends on the phone and going through more bottles of wine than is even typical for me. I also cut 7 inches off my long hair and bought a few cute new dresses just to bring myself a little bit of change and to get a little control back in my life.

And as hard as it has been to let go, it’s also strangely freeing. Here I am once again a single lady in this big city, and it feels good.

A big step in the right direction is my good friend and soon to be new roommate, Mary Logan. She and I have known each other since we went to pre-school together at Northside Methodist, and I couldn’t be more thrilled to be moving in with her in a few weeks.

She has been away from NYC for most of the summer and is returning today. In celebration, our closest NYC crew is getting together for a Western themed outing including dinner at Ted’s Montana Grill and bucking bull rides at Johnny Utah’s.

After an especially emotional past few days as I’ve tried to let go, I made the decision to make tonight my true return to Manhattan style single life. Hopefully my bull riding skills and my finest cowgirl attire will be so impressive that the cowboys won’t be able to resist.

And as for the kind of New York experience that I moved here to have, I’m back, and all I have to say is giddy up and hold on tight!

JLH